OSCP

[drewan]

Okay, on this whole "open source boob project" subject. What it weren't breasts... what if it were craniums. Lets change it to "open source craniums project."

If you wear a green button that says "You may ask..." then you are open to a friend or stranger walking up to you to *ask* you if he or she may "rub your cranium."

If you are not wearing a button, or are explicitly wearing a red "You may not ask..." button, then you are not to be approached and asked.

It's still a practice in permission and consent, but it would take this from lewd to just bizarre.

Or if cranium rubbing isn't your thing, maybe this can become the "open source handshake project."

(I know this whole post is just going to confuse my Mom, who reads my LJ. Mom, don't worry about it, I'll explain it to you next time we have dinner.)

Comments

[daedala.livejournal.com]

I'd still be against it. I don't want to have to categorize myself in a public space as touchable or not-touchable.

I have striking hair. I actually get cranium rubs. It's icky. But you know, I have such long hair, I must be asking for it, or something.

[drewan.livejournal.com]

Right... so you wouldn't be playing the game. Does that mean that other people can't play the game?

[drewan.livejournal.com]

And... there are many people who sexualize hair more than breasts. I don't get it.

[jbru.livejournal.com]

I used to get that when my hair was long. Now no one loves me anymore.

[minnehaha.livejournal.com]

As a study in social dynamics, handshakes won't work, because in our culture we commonly shake hands with each other. Cranium rubbing is a pretty good example, but it doesn't have the spark of sexual imbalance that a sexualized body part does.

How about OSBP? Everybody has a butt.

K.

[jbru.livejournal.com]

Hugging probably wouldn't work for the same reasons as handshakes. Kissing?

[drewan.livejournal.com]

Hmm... kissing wouldn't be good because there actually are some STD's that can be transferred via kissing.

Oh... I'm assuming that you mean lip to lip kissing, tongue optional.

Maybe if it were kissing hands, or foreheads, or something like that.

[jbru.livejournal.com]

Yes, I meant kissing on the lips. Part of what made me think of it was the negotiation of tongue that has to be made at the moment, that instant of "how intimate do I want this to be?"

You're right about the STDs; I presumed people who knew they were carrying would abstain but I suppose I can't do that.

[drewan.livejournal.com]

Sadly not everyone has a butt. Come on... you know that's true.

Maybe belly rubbing. Open Source Belly Project. Everyone has a stomach area. I actually like belly rubs.

Ok... yes, everyone has a butt area too.

[minnehaha.livejournal.com]

Yeah, point. Not everyone does. I still think that if one wants to develop a corollary project, it has to be for a body part that people don't get to see every day and is perceived sexually.

K.

[drewan.livejournal.com]

Open Source Toe Project?

[stealthpup.livejournal.com]

Back (rub). (Then again, I imagine most folks won't object to such.)

[drewan.livejournal.com]

All depends on the person asking. You... hell yes.

Scary unwashed crazy bearded Klingon loving filker with an inability to function in normal social situations... hell no.

[minnehaha.livejournal.com]

I didn't figure out "OSBP" is the same acronym as "OSBP." D'oh.

K.

[cakmpls.livejournal.com]

My husband has no butt. R tells him that frequently: "Daddy, you don't have any butt!" (Most commonly when Miss Fashionista is critiquing his sartorial inadequacies.)

[huladavid.livejournal.com]

Speaking of craniums...

A loooong time ago one of the guys I worked with came in with his head shaved. Things were slow, so a bunch of us were talking, "Stan" being one of us, and I just happened to be standing behind him.

Anyway, he starts to go on and on about how great it was to have a shaven head, and gets into the psychological dyamics (or some such...)of clean headedness. He seemed to be getting a bit full of himself, so I...

...uh...

...licked the top of his head.

He was sooo upset.

[susandennis]

ok, that's just flat out hilarious - and such a great visual

[mizzlaurajean.livejournal.com]

I don't think it's fair comparison. But either way I think it's inappropriate to ask a stranger randomly if you can touch any part of them. While I'm glad these people have learned one should certainly seek permission before touching others now they need to learn that context is relevant and add that to the equation.

FYI: I have never liked the random strangers asking for and giving out hugs and conventions either.

The whole thing seem very junior high to think it's a funny game of pushing social boundary's what they fail to see is that it is largely only funny to them

[drewan.livejournal.com]

My understanding was that random strangers weren't involved in the game, at least not at the first convention. I'm gathering from further reading that it may have gotten a little out of hand at the second convention, which of course is bad.

Yeah... I agree. In a standard social setting I would not want a stranger to touch, or ask to touch, me. In a more intimate social setting the rules may be different, depending on the parties involved, but it still would be ok for an unknown stranger to do this.

Many games are only fun to the people playing. (Yes... of course there are exceptions.)

[daedala.livejournal.com]

Andrew, you are not reading. At the first convetion, there are LONG DESCRIPTIONS of the group going out to find random strangers. In skimpy outfits.